by Gail Hamm, program director
“…you need only step away from the well-worn circular path to explore the untried paths that lie beyond it…â€
Daily OM, Begetting Change: Same Choices, Same Results, Feb 6, 2012
Itâ€™s so easy to get stuck in a rut and stay there, whether itâ€™s a mundane day-to-day work situation, a going-nowhere relationship, or deep grief over any life situation. You know you are stuck when each day brings the same unfulfilled feelings, and you believe that there is no way out of the situation. In that frame of mind, it seems that nothing can or will change.
The secret of escape is to realize the situation will never change unless you do. It means changing the dance… that is, not doing the same thing over and over. How many times do you keep trying to unlock the door until you realize you are using the wrong key? How many times do you flip the light switch before you realize the power is off or the bulb has burned out? Doing the same thing over and over will not change the outcome.
So as you take another lap down that rut, remember: â€œyou need only step away from the well-worn circular path to explore the untried paths that lie beyond it…â€
Casting for Recovery and Cancer Services will present information regarding their programs at the Conquering Breast Cancer support group on Tuesday, February 21, starting at 6:30 pm. The group meets at Parkview Comprehensive Cancer Center, 11141 Parkview Plaza Drive, Entrance #4.
Casting for Recovery is a non-profit support and educational program for breast cancer survivors. Women of all ages are invited to attend the fly-fishing, outdoor retreats at no cost. The organization provides counseling and medical education and incorporates fly-fishing to promote physical and emotional healing. Retreats are two-and-a-half day events and take place May 18-20 and September 28-30. For more information, visit www.castingforrecovery.org.
Following the Casting for Recovery presentation at 7:00pm, Gail Hamm, program director for Cancer Services, will present â€œCancer Services-Programs You Wonâ€™t Want to Miss!â€
by Gail Hamm, program director
Invisible Inkâ€¦.a catchy and intriguing name. What a name for a bereavement group! Having already completed more than half the lessons, I can say joining this course has been a wonderful experience. It is not for the faint of heart, however. Iâ€™ve been working hard on my grief. I write to my daughter. I dig deep to unearth my feelings and put them on paper. My head and heart seek to find meaning in my experience.
Each session starts with a meditation/guided imagery. A topic is introduced and I write in the privacy of my space. If I want to share what I have written, then I do so. Otherwise, what is written remains in my notebook for only me to see. No more than 9 people are ever in the group. This keeps it small and intimate; I feel safe.
Even though I have expressed that the work at times is difficult (who likes to swim around in pain-filled feelings?), I would not want that to dissuade anyone from joining this course. You need to know ahead of time that this is for those who are ready to move on through their grief. The healthiest way to grieve is to acknowledge the loss, feel the feelings, and move through the feelings so you donâ€™t get stuck or stay stuck. Writing is a great way to pull out feelings and give them up or give them over. We donâ€™t forget our loved one. We transform the relationship through the catharsis of writing.
Writing helps both start, and, at times, finish conversations. Writing can help us see what has been hidden because our grief. Writing may help us find a depth to the relationship, which we were not previously aware of. I am finding that since I started my work in Invisible Ink, I am different. I am not sure I have words to explain that difference. I only know that it is so.
Join Kathy Curtis as she starts the next 9 week series of Invisible Ink on March 15, at 6:30PM. You will not regret the experience. Please call your reservation to 260-484-9560. Iâ€™d be happy to answer your questions.
This morning, program director Gail Hamm shares her thoughts on Regina Brett’s Life Lesson #41: If we threw all of our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
Don’t forget, Regina will be the guest speaker at the Annual Tribute Dinner on Thursday, October 13. You can purchase tickets online HERE, at our office during normal office hours, or by mail. Give Amber a call at 484-9560 for more information.
“Too often, as we bemoan our life, we look around and it seems as though the lives of others are so much easier…that they havenâ€™t a care in the world. But the truth is, we do a pretty good job hiding our real selves from others. Just because we donâ€™t share the truth about soured relationships, mental health concerns, financial worries, health fears, childrenâ€™s issues, and other anxieties, does not mean that they donâ€™t exist. I may not be happy with my problems, but I certainly donâ€™t want to switch with anyone else. Iâ€™m used to my baggage and am not ready to take a chance on someone elseâ€™s. Iâ€™m reminded of the person who thinks that the grass is always greener on the other side. Itâ€™s easy to be fooled by what we cannot see.” ~Gail Hamm, program director
by Gail Hamm, program director
This morning, I want to reflect on one of Regina Brett’s Life Lessons: Always choose life. Iâ€™d like to change the word from â€œlifeâ€ to â€œlivingâ€. I say this because itâ€™s so easy to stop living while still being alive. By that I mean going through the motions as if one is living, but not really being engaged or conscious or aware of each moment. This often occurs because of trauma, which causes a person to become stuck in time. Having a loved one die, being diagnosed with a terminal illness, or being traumatized through an accident or military experience are examples of incidents which can cause â€œstucknessâ€. There is so much to experience in life, and time is so short, that itâ€™s really a great waste of human potential when a person stops living each moment. We have a tag line here at Cancer Services: count moments count moments count moments count moments. It can be read as count moments or moments count. â€œAlways choose lifeâ€ means that moments count, so donâ€™t miss them!
Our Program Director, Gail Hamm, reflects on Regina’s life lesson #21: Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
“Those who know me, will find it ironic that I chose this statement to write about this morning. Iâ€™m a saver. I rarely throw anything away that I think I might need later. My colleagues laugh, but on more than one occasion, I have retrieved important emails from my archives to assist their efforts.
I knew I was a saver as a small child, when I received a craft project for Christmas and wouldnâ€™t ‘use it up’. As I grew older, I watched others who were savers. When my paternal grandmother died, her closet contained a fair number of dresses with the tags still on them. What a shame she never wore them. I made the decision that Iâ€™d start ‘using up’ my possessions. I used up my wedding china and later sets of dishes. I used up candles. There are no nice sheets waiting to be used, nor fancy lingerie, either.
Special occasions happen each day that I am alive, and there is great pleasure in being able to ‘use up’ possessions today. The art paper so carefully stored away can create an even more beautiful object by being used, rather than just lying in the drawer. So burn those candles, use the nice sheets and wear the fancy lingerie! Donâ€™t save them for special occasions. Today is special!”
Gail Hamm, program director for Cancer Services of Northeast Indiana, has been certified by the Board of Oncology Social Work Certification. This process required extensive documentation of education, training, professional affiliations, community, and professional involvement, and day-to-day work responsibilities with oncology patients. This prestigious qualification is held by only three other individuals in the state of Indiana. Hamm is a licensed clinical social worker with over 20 years of social work experience in hospital, hospice and palliative care, community social services and grief and loss.
Dianne May, President and CEO, says, â€œThis certification is one more example of Cancer Servicesâ€™ commitment to high quality programs and services for all people with cancer in our region.â€