by Dianne May, president & CEO
One of my favorite authors, Louise Penny, recently wrote this: â€œmy books, while clearly and happily [are] murder mysteries [they] are really about duality. The gap between what is said and what is felt. The public face and the inner truth.â€
The gap between what is said and what is felt. How often have you felt trapped in that place? Wanting to have an honest and authentic conversation with someone, but worried about how he or she might react. Itâ€™s scary to set aside social conventions and expectations in order to share deeply personal thoughts and feelings. What if the listener is uncomfortable? What if I canâ€™t find the words I need?
Maybe youâ€™ve been the person waiting for another to open up and share. You sense there is more to be said, but you donâ€™t want to force your loved one to talk if she is not ready. The truth is she might be waiting for a sign from you that it is okay to share her feelings.
Some people need time to prepare for conversations and some need only the right time or place. Humor might make it easier for him to start a conversation. And a simple question might provide the right opening for her. However we find the way to traverse the gap between our public faces and inner truths, sharing our true feelings with people whom we love and who love us, is a good thing. Is there a gap you want to cross?
We have amazing volunteers and this morning, we hosted our annual Volunteer Appreciation Celebration at Ceruti’s to honor them. More than 200 volunteers attended and enjoyed a delicious breakfast and entertainment by the Alley Kats.
We could not do what we do without our volunteers and we think we have some of the best ones around. Here are some statistics about them in 2010.
Support group facilitators, members of the advisory board, and Finance and Friend Development committee members have planned, led, attended and participated in 320 meetings
Volunteers provided 355 trips for our clients to and from treatment centers in the wind, rain and snow.
Our volunteer receptionists come in every week and greet our clients with warm smiles, answering 6 phone lines, and keeping things running during lunch time. They have given 467 hours to us this year.
Volunteers helped us have a presence at 35 different health fairs or educational events.
Our Monday morning volunteers who show up faithfully each week cut bed pads, inspect bed pads, assemble folders, shred papers, and help with mailings. They have donated 534 hours this year.
We had 22 volunteer massage therapists who participated in an advanced training class for working with oncology patients. In July we launched our Caring Touch program and since then have given 301 massages to our clients and their primary caregivers.
Our special events volunteers, who help plan Survivors Day, The Tribute Dinner, Design on Life, Tie 1 On, and Lapper, donated more than 1,200 hours in planning, implementing, and assisting with our events.
Our sewing groups donated 7,185 hours washing, ironing, cutting, pinning, and sewing 6,620 bed pads for us.
All together, our volunteers donated 12,150 hours in 2010!
Our Volunteer Coordinator, Cheryl Dafforn, left our volunteers with this special message.
One of my favorite things to do in my job is to plan this event for you. You hold such a dear place in all of our hearts and we love it when we can all come together and thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
This year we have chosen a coffee cup as your thank-you. Did you know that coffee is a very ancient drink, and that people have been drinking it for over two thousand years? In fact coffee is now one of the most popular drinks in the world, and is almost as valuable as petroleum. Now a coffee bean by itself may not appear to be anything special, but when you add water things change. It becomes a rich, bold, invigorating beverage that some of us hold very dear. It also gives us a boost and keeps us going.
You, as volunteers give us a boost and keep us going.
Wilfred A Peterson once said â€œDecision is the spark that ignites action. Until a decision is made nothing happens.” Your decision to become a volunteer with Cancer Services allows us to utilize your gifts to lessen and ease the changes our clients face each day.
The reality isâ€¦cancer changes people. Our objective, here at Cancer Services, is to make those changes as painless as possible. Without volunteers like you, we could not do that. Your volunteer moments count. Just by volunteering your time you demonstrate what counts. Moments count, people count, count the moments we have together.
Thank-you for making the decision to volunteer. We realize you may not always see the end results of your volunteer efforts, or the impact it has with our clients but please know thisâ€¦ Our cup runneth over with great volunteers, and we are truly blessed by each and every one of you.
Thank you for being â€œBoldâ€ enough to volunteer, and making our lives â€œRicherâ€
Donna doesnâ€™t remember what day it was when the doctor said, â€œyouâ€™re cancer-free.â€ But her husband Tom does and every year on that day he tells her how much he loves and appreciates her.
Mark had a birthday party when he turned 11, but it was the â€œNo More Chemoâ€ party later that year that he really remembers.
Mary Joâ€™s surgery was the same day as her daughterâ€™s 21st birthday. Neither of them felt like celebrating, but it was so good to be together that night.
Birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, days of â€œfirstsâ€â€”what special days of life do you mark? No one would argue that calendars and dates arenâ€™t important, but we remember our own lifeâ€™s journey by events and important moments. Sometimes, the moments are painful or scary, like when you or someone you love is diagnosed with cancer. The fear can block out everything around us.
Cancer Services provides a bright spot of hope for people dealing with cancer. Here families find help and understanding. It is an important day when someone comes to Cancer Services. They may need practical supplies and equipment or simply the friendly face of someone who understands. We want to be here every day for people who have cancer.
Please help us spread the word so that no one has to travel this journey alone. You can start by bookmarking this blog and sharing it with others.
by Gail Hamm, program director
Holidays are notorious for too much food, too many relatives, and too little sleep for the cook. Thereâ€™s too little time to clean the house, thaw the bird, and manage travel. Letâ€™s be serious. Holidays can be very hectic and rarely are relaxing. But itâ€™s important to your health to step back from all the hassle and refocus on yourself. This is especially true if you, or a loved one, are going through cancer treatment. Itâ€™s ok to give yourself permission to simplify. This may mean letting someone else host the affair this year. It may mean changing the menu from roasting a bird to ordering pizza. Perhaps itâ€™s time to reduce the size of the guest list. Maybe youâ€™ll decide to stay in your jammies and let the holiday slide on by, just this once. Whatever you do, you do not have to explain yourself. You do not have to feel like a failure. You do not have to feel guilty. You can say, â€œI am taking care of myself.â€ Who knows, you just might find a new way to celebrate!
In response to requests from clients and family members, Cancer Services will begin offering evening hours until 7:00pm on Monday nights starting January 10. A Client Advocate will be available to meet with individuals and provide access to all the services offered. We know life during cancer is complicated and we want to help. This is one more way Cancer Services is here for you.
Hours of Operation:
Monday 9am to 7pm, Tues-Friday 9am to 5pm
If you did not attend the nutrition seminar last week, â€œHealthy Eating for the Holidays,â€ you missed a real winner. Chris Moore, Registered Dietitian from Parkview Hospital, has presented this particular Fall event for several years. Scrumptious samples of healthy foods and Chrisâ€™s expertise make it a perennial hit. A new series of nutrition seminars will start in the Spring. Watch your Cancer Services calendar for dates and topics.
If you are having difficulty maintaining your weight, contact your physician for a referral to a dietitian, and contact your Client Advocate for additional information related to nutrition questions and solutions. If youâ€˜d like a copy of the recipes Chris served, email firstname.lastname@example.org
Mark your calendars for Saturday, February 26, 2011 and plan to join us for our annual Design on Life event in the Johnny Appleseed Ballroom at the Memorial Coliseum. In addition to the silent and live auctions, this yearâ€™s event, â€œA Stroll Down Bourbon Street,â€ will offer guests an opportunity to sample New Orleans style fare, listen to live music, and be entertained by roaming street performers, all in support of those affected by cancer in our community.
We need auction items! If you or someone you know would like to donate an item to our silent or live auction, please contact Amber Recker at email@example.com or (260) 484-9560.
by Dianne May, president and CEO
I collect quotes. It sounds a little strange to say it that way, but it started quite a few years ago when I read something I didnâ€™t want to lose. Now I have a folder on my computer called â€œinspiration.â€ Some of the quotes are from famous historic figures and though I might have a name, I donâ€™t necessarily know anything about the individual. And a couple of quotes are even from fortune cookies!
I think what I like about keeping these quotes is that, for me, they illustrate ideas and values that I hold dear. Values like kindnessâ€¦â€œWhen I was young I admired clever people. Now that I am old, I admire kind people.â€ Abraham Heschel (1907-1972)
Fairnessâ€¦â€œThe only way to be just is to judge your own actions by the best part of you, and to judge the actions of others by the worst part of you.â€ Sydney J. Harris (1917-1986)
Self-disciplineâ€¦â€œI do not try to dance better than anyone else. I only try to dance better than myself.â€ Mikhail Baryshnikov
Humilityâ€¦â€œIt is amazing what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit.â€ Harry S. Truman (1884â€”1972)
Leadershipâ€¦ “If youâ€™re leading the herd, look back now and then to see if they are still there.” Cowboy wisdom
Happinessâ€¦ â€œIt is neither wealth nor splendor, but tranquility and occupation which bring happiness.â€ Thomas Jefferson (1743â€”1826)
What words or ideas inspire you?
From a client:
Thank you Cancer Services forâ€¦
- Caring Hearts
- Always being there and listening
- Wig Bank
- Massage, donated for me and my husband
- Ronald Repka Foundation gift
Words truly do not express enough gratitude. I have been validated as a woman with cancer and it is okay to feel what I am feeling. That is a big statement. I was given such a caring heart in my Client Advocate, Maureen. She allowed me as much time as I needed and she always answered the phone to talk. She has been an angel to me through this journey. I am grateful for all she has done.
Indiana Cancer Consortium’s Quality of Life Action Team presents: Choices for the End of Life, a seminar for health care professionals.
Thursday, November 4, 2010
Cancer Services of Northeast Indiana
6316 Mutual Drive, Fort Wayne, IN 46825
â€œHospice Experience: A Caregiverâ€™s Storyâ€, Sarah Stoffel
â€œHospice and Palliative Careâ€ SueAnn Reynolds, President & CEO, Family Hospice and Palliative Care, Berne, IN
â€œStarting the Conversationâ€- Dawn Schweickhardt, LCSW, Social Worker, Parkview Home Health & Hospice, Fort Wayne, IN
â€œHospice & Palliative Care- A Physicianâ€™s Perspectiveâ€, Robert Crook, M.D., Hospice and Palliative Care Medical Director, Visiting Nurse & Hospice Home, Fort Wayne, IN
For reservations: http://iccqualityoflife.eventbrite.com/